How to Ask for Money Instead of Gifts for Your Wedding

How to Word Asking for No Gifts at a Baby Shower on Your Invitation

After you’ve picked out your theme and invitations

After you’ve picked out your theme and invitations, you realize that you need to add some kind of disclaimer that you don’t want gifts. How do you politely say no gifts on a baby shower invitation? 

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You can either add something to the bottom of the invite or create a separate insert. I like to add a separate insert, just because some people don’t read the whole card.

Having your host on board is super important. They are going to get bombarded with….. ‘well what do I bring?!’ Even when you have plainly stated your wishes of no gifts at your baby shower. Give your host some options of things you would appreciate for those who want to give something. We loved take-out gift cards, meal trains, house cleaner, and gift cards (who doesn’t?!)

Whether you need a one-line phrase, separate insert, monetary gift, or gift card wording, here are some polite ways to ask for no gifts at your baby shower!

One-Line Phrases for the Bottom of Your Invitation

If you have a fairly simple invitation, adding a short phrase to the end is a great way to let guests know that you don’t want gifts. Here are some nice ways to ask:

  1. Please gift us with your presence!
  2. Your presence is the sweetest gift we could ever receive. 
  3. In lieu of a gift, please bring a photo of yourself and a letter for the baby!
  4. We would love to celebrate mom-to-be with love and support instead of gifts.
  5. We’ve already been blessed with the items we need, please just come and celebrate with the parents-to-be.
  6. We have everything we need for Baby C, so shower us with your love and blessing. 

Separate Insert Ideas for you Invitations

If a simple line feels too impersonal, add a separate insert or card to the invitation that explains your no gift wishes for your baby shower!

  1. We hope you can come to Emmie Kay’s Baby Shower! Since we have everything we need, we are asking that you don’t bring gifts. Your presence is the sweetest gift our girl could receive. We do have one favor to ask…. Could you write her a little message on the black card attached? We want to take your picture with her and add the message to a photo book… as a keepsake for her to look back on.
  2. A Note on Gifts…. It’s important that we celebrate the coming of our baby boy/girl and that is why we are throwing a party. No gifts are needed! Just bring yourself and join us in having a little fun!


A baby shower invitation

Asking for gifts on a baby shower invitation is acceptable. The main purpose of a baby shower is to gather family and friends together to receive gifts for both baby and mom-to-be.

Many couples start purchasing some of the bigger and more expensive items for their new baby early on in their pregnancy. But by the time the baby shower has been planned, organized and the invitations go out there are still many items that are needed before the little bundle of joy arrives.

So if the main purpose of having a baby shower is to receive gifts, then the question is, how to ask for gifts on a baby shower invitation for the items that you actually still need?

This can be done in three different ways, which are:

  • Setup a baby registry with only the gifts that you still need

Your invitation would be as follows:


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Use Humor

Using a little humor would lighten the moment and make guests more comfortable with giving you the type of gift that you prefer. State your wishes in a way that puts them at ease, by saying:

“I love video games. The perfect gift for me would be a Steam gift card.”

“Baked treats are my delight. Please include a gift card from your favorite bakery as my special gift.”

“We’re moving into our new home but the work isn’t done yet. A gift card for any hardware store would be the perfect housewarming present.”

How to Tell your Friends and Family ‘No Gifts’

Most likely your parents are going to look at you

Most likely your parents are going to look at you like you have three heads. For their generation, this type of party felt necessary. But, it’s totally okay that you don’t want gifts for your baby shower!

When telling your friends and family that you don’t want gifts, it can feel awkward and a little bit rude. That’s why I’m sharing a few tips that will help you when breaking the news!

1. Create a Small Registry

This is really just for those who can’t follow the rules. Just don’t tell everyone about it. Give your registry to the Host or the person who is in charge of RSVPs. This way you won’t get unwanted baby items

2. Give guests another option instead of a gift

When asking for guests to not bring gifts, I feel better when I’ve given them another option. I love making memory books, so I typically ask them to write a letter or note!

Here are some of my favorite ideas in lieu of a gift:

  1. Books
  2. Ask for Prayer
  3. Start Your Baby a College Fund
  4. Charity Donation
  5. A letter or Note
  6. Start a Piggy Bank

3. Re-Name the party to Baby Celebration or Welcoming Baby Party

When people hear baby shower they immediately think of gifts. So, try renaming it so that they don’t feel like it’s that kind of party!

4. Wait and throw a Sip + See Party

If you want to ensure that you don’t get gifts, hold off on celebrating until after the baby has arrived. In the south, many families celebrate a Sip + See Party. This is typically hosted by the parents and its intent is to show off their new baby! 

So its OK then to be asking for money instead of gifts in your wedding invitations?

Again, there is no right or wrong answer to this. My personal view is that, if you’re going to suggest a gift of cash or vouchers, then you should make it clear exactly what you’re going to use that for. Good examples could be your honeymoon or a once-in-a-lifetime family holiday, a house purchase or renovations or a statement piece of furniture for your marital home. Letting your guests know that you will be putting their contribution towards something you will truly value and treasure will mean a lot to them.

Ask Your Parents and Wedding Party to Spread the Word

Make sure to let your parents and bridal party know that you’d prefer cash (as well as why) and encourage them to tactfully spread the word. Chances are guests will ask them what they should get you, and this will prepare them to share what you’re saving for, whether it’s the trip of a lifetime, a kitchen remodel, or a down payment on a home you can call your own. They can then suggest that your guests make a contribution to your savings fund instead of getting you a new toaster.

Register for Gift Cards

Are you looking for a clever approach to ask for money as a wedding present? Adding gift cards to your register is a good idea. This covert method of requesting money will allow you and your significant other to stock up on dollars for your favorite restaurants, stores, and internet retailers. Don’t ignore the convenience of adding a few gift cards to your wish list because we’ve collaborated with dozens of terrific brands to help you obtain gifts you’ll actually use.

Ask for Experiences

If you want a gift card but you don’t want to do a lot of explaining to your guests, you could simply ask for experiences instead of tangible gifts.

Most experiences automatically come with a gift card.

For example, if you would like to have a spa day that would normally be given as a gift card. Similarly, a night out at your favorite restaurant would also be given in the form of a gift card.

You can ask for treasured experiences in the following ways:

“If you really want to get me something memorable, I prefer a gift card for a spa day.”

“I don’t really want material things but if you want to give me a memorable present I would appreciate a gift card for my favorite restaurant.”

“Just spending time with you is cool. I don’t need a tangible gift because I’ve learned to treasure quiet moments more. If you wish to get me a gift I would love a gift card for a day at my favorite adventure park.”

A Birthday invitation

For a birthday invitation, it can be a little tricky because usually, people do bring gifts. Sometimes they are good gifts and sometimes they are not. The only way to stop people buying you items that you do not want or do not like is to ask for something specific.

So how to say gifts are welcome but the items, money or gifts cards that you would prefer?

Well, there are a couple of options that you could use. Some are sneaky and creative and others are straight to the point.

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Never Ask for Cash on Your Wedding Invitation

The one place your request for cash should never be included? Your wedding invitation. Registry information of any kind doesn’t belong here. Instead, add it to your wedding website. You can include your wedding website on the invitation, however, or as an insert in your wedding invitation suite.

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Place a Box for Cards at the Reception

While some guests will buy items through your wedding registry, others may prefer to bring a check on the big day. Set up a card contribution box at the front desk to accept monetary payments in person. This cash gift concept, often known as a wishing well, is an excellent method to keep track of all the monetary donations made on your wedding day. Additionally, having a central location to collect cards and financial presents will make drafting thank-you notes a lot easier.

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